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Weekly Ponder #8 – Rage Against the Ordinary: How To Save The World If I Have to Do Dishes?

Weekly Ponder #8

Rage Against the Ordinary: How To Save The World If I Have to Do Dishes?

Take this scenario: You are inspired. You want to change the world. Perhaps you already have an idea. Perhaps you are just waiting for something (you know that “signal”) until you can get ready to go. You are on the internet every day, reading news stories, learning about the success and daring leadership of other social innovators. That will be YOU one day, following your calling, maybe even becoming famous!

But then you realize it’s Sunday and your house is a mess. You haven’t cleaned up in a while, you haven’t taken out the trash, you haven’t cleaned the bathroom, you haven’t done much of anything actually, come to think of it. Why would you? Every moment counts! Every moment that you spend mopping or doing boring chores is a moment you cannot indulge in reading, e-mailing, and doing all those things that extraordinary people tend to do, right?

Did I forget to mention that you also have a day-job that starts tomorrow on that dreadful Monday and that means you have to wait every day for nightfall before you can come home and hit the internet again? Subtract the time in commute, the time you have to spend with the wife/husband and kids, maybe time for working out, eating dinner, washing clothes, etc. Before you know it’s very late already and you need to go to bed so you can wake up on time tomorrow to be on time for the office or class. But before you do this, you notice you are completely out of clean dishes and unless you do something now you won’t have a cereal bowl to eat out of tomorrow (and neither will your spouse and family).

For some of you, it sounds like Sophie’s Choice: wasting precious time with boring, ordinary work, that could otherwise be spent with EXTRA-ordinary work (to the betterment of humanity, etc.)… or not having dishes and go hungry tomorrow morning. Meanwhile, Monday is edging ever closer and closer, while your despair grows.

Is this you? Do you suffer from “rage against the ordinary”? Today, I am pondering how to deal with this quite common condition among ambitious people like you.

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The Centrality of Character – Do People in “Good” Companies have to be Nice?

Key Question in this Post:

  • Do people in “do good” occupations have to be nice?

This may seem at first glance a quite silly question, doesn’t it? Yet, after encountering throughout the years my fair share of people engaged in occupations that are meant to help others and improve lives, I have never ceased to be curious why some of these people are – how shall I put it – not nice (and occasionally, real as$h%^$s). Whether you are talking about NGOs, social enterprises, foundations or impact investors, these people pop up here and there, wherever you go. Who hasn’t met the occasional do-good employer during an interview who seemed arrogant and conceited? Who hasn’t seen the occasional ugliness between two members of the same nonprofit board? Who hasn’t seen philanthropists occasionally disparaged by investors?

Why do I find this curious? After-all, I’ve worked among other places also on Wall Street before, where not being nice registers just about on the bottom of improvement areas someone could have on their annual evaluations, to put it mildly. After-all, doesn’t the saying go something like “bad apples grow just about on every tree”? That is certainly true and it remains just as much a matter of fact like the sky being blue and grass being green. The impatient among you may cry right out: it’s nothing you can change, no matter where you work, so why care about it?

Yet, for some reason, there seems to me something profoundly odd and particularly offending about people in the “do-good” or social sector behaving like this, almost to the point where I would like to think that even if it might be this way… it should not. In this post, allow me to carefully argue that if you want to genuinely serve in a do-good job, I would expect you not only to be a “good” person, but also a “nice” person, and that something significant is at stake by your being so. Let me explain.

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